So …you sit in front of the mirror and bash yourself. Pimples at 35? Wrinkles too. Drooping skin. Need a hair cut. Ya know what, cut it all off because it sucks. Don’t get me started on the neck down.
But then just when you have judged yourself to the point of tears, you realize, you still need to face the people outside your walls, at the store, at work, etc.
Why do we judge ourselves so harshly, when we wouldn’t even say those things to our best friends? I would never pour my friend a cup of tea and go down the list that I do for myself. Because to me she is beautiful and I don’t even see those things, like for real.
But then, there are those women who pick others apart. Who make it their goal to belittle and bash other women. I’ll never get it. Everyone is insecure. We’re only human. You’re not doing yourself any favors the confidence department to hurt someone else, who is probably hurting already. In fact, I feel better about myself when I can say “Hey girl, your skirt makes your legs look great, or that eyeshadow really brings out your eyes.” Real, sincere compliments. I feel great after, so I keep doing it. I force myself to find the good, one good thing in everyone. Even if I have to dig deep. Sometimes the nastiest women need that sincere compliment the most.
That’s part of why I do what I do (Vintage Pin Up photography). Every woman deserves to feel empowered. Whether they already feel great or whether they are sitting in the mirror as we speak with a list of things they hate.
For crying out loud, be as kind to yourself and strangers as you would be to your best friend. This brings me to the motivation behind a recent photoshoot.
I was talking to a friend about this topic and it reminded me of something a I read about a female journalists tearing Marilyn Monroe apart in the 50’s for what she would wear, etc.
We all know why…. jealousy, envy, low self esteem all combine to create a very nasty cocktail.
They made comments criticizing her wardrobe, to say, “Well anyone could look great in a designer wardrobe” etc. Going on to call it skanky and trashy. Finally saying she would look better in a potato sack. (as the story goes, Twentieth Century Fox decided to capitalize on this and prove that Marilyn would indeed look sexy in the sack)
So they hired a designer to fashion a dress from a sack and the rest is HISTORY. Va Va voom were they RIGHT!?!
I felt compelled to recreate this look with a friend of mine Patty, who has real Marilyn vibes. She trusted me enough to wear the scratchy, grungy sack dress and I love the images we got.
Can’t decide which I like better! Black and white or Color. What about you.
Goes to show, the clothes don’t make the woman, the WOMAN makes the clothes. So always wear what you want, whatever makes you feel a certain kind of fun, flirty, sexy, smart, whatever. And DON’T judge another woman because she has the confidence to wear it. Because, she may be hurting inside and have just enough courage to get dressed up so, don’t blow it for her.
Get dressed today. Not that old sack A.K.A stained yoga pants and boyfriend’s Tee. Wear something tight (yet comfy and with pockets LOL). Wear that skirt that shows off your calves. Or the skirt that makes the “girls” feel like teenagers agian, and feel fancy, sexy and confident. While you’re on cloud nine, through a compliment at another gal. I promise you won’t regret it.